“He is good, so good. And he treats your little girl like a real man should.” ~Carrie Underwood
Maybe it was driving through the rolling hills of Tennessee…
Maybe it was because I just had a great weekend with my boys in Nashville…
Or maybe it’s because for the first time, I stopped worrying about it and just let it be…
But as I was driving back from Nashville, thinking about the weekend, what’s ahead, new jobs, dreams, struggles, time together and time apart, family, friends and home, I came to the conclusion that everything is going to be good. So good.
I know it sounds simple, and it is, but sometimes that’s the hardest stuff for me to figure out. Sometimes I overcomplicate and over analyze things. I sometimes ask the wrong people for advice or psych myself out.
The second question people ask when they hear I’m going to law school is about the Boy. What is he going to do? (Here’s the most asked question)
It’s been just over a month since I packed up my life and headed south for the summer before making the trek up north for school in the fall. So many new things were happening. I was moving, going back to school in a new city and the Boy was graduating, and starting a new job. I was torn between excitement for both of us and wishing we would be there together going through it all. Some people had horror stories of long distance relationships going array and this did nothing to calm that nagging fear in the back of my head. Again, sometimes I over think things.
The Boy and I have definitely been a part. He’s spent summers back home, or in Spain. I had to travel for work a lot and holidays have been spent with respective families, he’d travel for running etc. And it’s always been good. Not “good” like fine/so so or any other watered down version of this word that people toss around but good. So good like the Carrie Underwood song. Really really good. It’s always been a time where we learn about ourselves and each other going through new things. It’s when I get back from the day and can’t wait to hear from him, talk with him and hear what he’s up to. It’s always tough not having my best friend around all the time to hang out with but it always makes me realize what I have and so excited to be there again.
I know, I know. I don’t normally share this type of stuff on my blog…nor do I normally quote Carrie Underwood. I don’t know. Maybe it’s the heat.
Or…maybe it’s because I haven’t heard very many encouraging words about all this so for anybody else who has ever or will ever go through this…it will be something for you to think about and hold on to.
I also write this to say thanks to those who have been amazing and so supportive through all this. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate you.
One of these people is the Law School Wife. I read this post a couple of weeks ago and I think it hit the nail on the head. The circumstances are different but the point remains the same. She talks about how people would say they’d never stay together through law school cause it’s so hard blah blah blah, but after a year, she’s found that’s not the case. She says law school didn’t break those people up. Deeper issues or an incapadability did, not law school. I think the same applies to long distance. She says,
“Either you tackle the issues together, or you don’t. It’s not about law school. It’s just life. The couples who can’t handle the speed bumps, the curve balls, the stress of being an adult–those are the couples who will break up. The couples who know how to work through problems together, to work through stress together, to speak to each other with kindness even when the going gets tough, those who realize law school is just a phase and that work is just a job, those who know how to play together will stay together–”
I love it. It’s not law school, or the distance or anything else that’s hard, life is hard. She says some people/couples sink and some swim. Law school, and I’d say anything tough like long distance etc., weeds out the sinkers. And makes the swimmers stronger.
This coupled with talking with the boy and another dear friend’s comments I saw this weekend about long distance relationships being a great experience to learn about each other and grow has made me…dare I say it…excited.
I have loved our weekends together, out having fun, exploring, laughing, seeing friends and doing things we’ve never done before. I love our talks during the week and how he can make me smile miles away. I look forward to growing together as we learn about each other as he is starts a new job, I’m at law school and so much more.
So…on the windy road home from Nashville, with Carrie Underwood playing as the backdrop after a perfect weekend behind me and infinite possibilities ahead of me, I decided no more overthinking, overcomplicating or worrying. I came to the conclusion that I knew was the right one all along.
So, to the people who doubt and ask about me and the Boy and how we’ll make it though, I can say with conviction and confidence that no matter where we are, these challenges and weekends and long nights are going to be so good.
I can’t wait!